Ariana, you are not perfect.

28.05.15

A „star“ in our society seems to be someone who is above all of the „ normal“ not so glamerous people. Maintaining a perfect, shiny life with a very „utopian“ lifestyle.

You define them as someone to look up to, while degrading yourself thinking „Why can't I be like that person, why can't I reach what this person has reached“.

We are surrounded by fake ideals we strive for. Ideals, hiding that we are all just human beings.

The most obvious argument for this, and I am sure you have heard this many times already, is that they are photoshoped,they have managers who force them so present theirselves in a perfect way, their skin is made smooth with adobe after effects, and so on and so forth. At this point we compare ourselves, come to the conclusion that we are not as “goodlooking or successful“ and start throwing ourselves, what I'd like to view as, „lifebelts.“

I bet everyone of you has googled “no make up ______ <- enter admired star or person here“ before

or has asked other people questions like “do you think she's pretty? I don't think she is, it's just all make up.“ or “Do you think he actually owns that car?“ .. or what about “He was born with money and I can't change that I cant post pictures of cool places on instagram“.

Another popular statement is “ I don't feel the need to present what I have.He/She is so artificial“

It is a long long process of justifying that in the end you are better than that particular person.

Here's the catch. There is no need to justify.

We degrade ourselves for an image we create in our head.

We seem to only perceive what is shown to us. Not realizing that we are all human beings.

As we continue scrolling through pictures of others lives, we mirror our lives in our head.

We see ourselves rolling out of bed in the morning with no make up on or smudged make up, we see us failing an exam, we see us sitting at home at spring break, we see us being unproductive on the sofa or we see us being sick and pale and smelly.We mix our “imperfections“ into our selfperception. But we do not consider others having flaws that could influence our perception of them, which tricks us into thinking they are perfect and then forces us to compensate our insecurity by obsessivly searching for flaws.
Our own value is the product of our thoughts, don't miscalculate your own worth by adding up non existent insecurities.

All of the mentioned examples above are completely human. The only difference is that in a society diseased with perfectionism nobody shows it. And thus makes us think that their entire life is flawless.

Our minds seem to do only shallow observation when it comes to media nowadays.

It creates a lack of selfworth and selflove which leads to hatred, jealousy and pretenciousness.

The first step to finding your own worth is to stop comparing and tricking yourself into thinking that some human beings are less human than you.They are not machines, they are not perma tattoed with good make up on their face and they are especially not better than you, because their external world is filled with blatant materialism or their genes gave them a different body shape.

Every single human being has its talents, and its features. Even stars will look at pictures of other people, feel less confident and compensate their doubts with the success they have.

Something humanity seems to know but not to truly understand is that happiness is the most wanted resource out there. Everyone acts in order to be happy or to feel complete.

The first step to receive the gift of true happiness is to get rid of your ego.Get rid of the thoughts that tell yourself you are not enough, and that others have way more than you.This can relate to looks or things.Im not telling you everyone has flaws, because to me every human is flawless, since there is no ultimate ideal of beauty,personality or a perfect life.

Happiness, self worth and love do not come from the outside. Ghandi once mentioned something along the lines of : If you are not happy with what you have now, you will not be happy with what you wish you had.

It is healthy for your soul to never stop seeking what you desire, and if you have reached your goal, be grateful, welcome it, learn, internalize and continue seeking.

Only when you understand that you are bigger than what you make of yourself, you can achieve whatever you want and be your authentic self. You are not a soul limited by your own body, you are a body made limitless by your soul. (Inspired by Jim carrey)

You are a unique creation of a thousand of atoms made of stardust, that chose to manifest themselves in this very particular way, so you could become the person you are meant to be.And you will master the challenges and grow from the very moment your first breath is taken.Do not seek to be a copy, fan the flames within yourself and follow the path they lead.

-love, nadinenai