Ariana, you are not perfect.

28.05.15

A „star“ in our society seems to be someone who is above all of the „ normal“ not so glamerous people. Maintaining a perfect, shiny life with a very „utopian“ lifestyle.

You define them as someone to look up to, while degrading yourself thinking „Why can't I be like that person, why can't I reach what this person has reached“.

We are surrounded by fake ideals we strive for. Ideals, hiding that we are all just human beings.

The most obvious argument for this, and I am sure you have heard this many times already, is that they are photoshoped,they have managers who force them so present theirselves in a perfect way, their skin is made smooth with adobe after effects, and so on and so forth. At this point we compare ourselves, come to the conclusion that we are not as “goodlooking or successful“ and start throwing ourselves, what I'd like to view as, „lifebelts.“

I bet everyone of you has googled “no make up ______ <- enter admired star or person here“ before

or has asked other people questions like “do you think she's pretty? I don't think she is, it's just all make up.“ or “Do you think he actually owns that car?“ .. or what about “He was born with money and I can't change that I cant post pictures of cool places on instagram“.

Another popular statement is “ I don't feel the need to present what I have.He/She is so artificial“

It is a long long process of justifying that in the end you are better than that particular person.

Here's the catch. There is no need to justify.

We degrade ourselves for an image we create in our head.

We seem to only perceive what is shown to us. Not realizing that we are all human beings.

As we continue scrolling through pictures of others lives, we mirror our lives in our head.

We see ourselves rolling out of bed in the morning with no make up on or smudged make up, we see us failing an exam, we see us sitting at home at spring break, we see us being unproductive on the sofa or we see us being sick and pale and smelly.We mix our “imperfections“ into our selfperception. But we do not consider others having flaws that could influence our perception of them, which tricks us into thinking they are perfect and then forces us to compensate our insecurity by obsessivly searching for flaws.
Our own value is the product of our thoughts, don't miscalculate your own worth by adding up non existent insecurities.

All of the mentioned examples above are completely human. The only difference is that in a society diseased with perfectionism nobody shows it. And thus makes us think that their entire life is flawless.

Our minds seem to do only shallow observation when it comes to media nowadays.

It creates a lack of selfworth and selflove which leads to hatred, jealousy and pretenciousness.

The first step to finding your own worth is to stop comparing and tricking yourself into thinking that some human beings are less human than you.They are not machines, they are not perma tattoed with good make up on their face and they are especially not better than you, because their external world is filled with blatant materialism or their genes gave them a different body shape.

Every single human being has its talents, and its features. Even stars will look at pictures of other people, feel less confident and compensate their doubts with the success they have.

Something humanity seems to know but not to truly understand is that happiness is the most wanted resource out there. Everyone acts in order to be happy or to feel complete.

The first step to receive the gift of true happiness is to get rid of your ego.Get rid of the thoughts that tell yourself you are not enough, and that others have way more than you.This can relate to looks or things.Im not telling you everyone has flaws, because to me every human is flawless, since there is no ultimate ideal of beauty,personality or a perfect life.

Happiness, self worth and love do not come from the outside. Ghandi once mentioned something along the lines of : If you are not happy with what you have now, you will not be happy with what you wish you had.

It is healthy for your soul to never stop seeking what you desire, and if you have reached your goal, be grateful, welcome it, learn, internalize and continue seeking.

Only when you understand that you are bigger than what you make of yourself, you can achieve whatever you want and be your authentic self. You are not a soul limited by your own body, you are a body made limitless by your soul. (Inspired by Jim carrey)

You are a unique creation of a thousand of atoms made of stardust, that chose to manifest themselves in this very particular way, so you could become the person you are meant to be.And you will master the challenges and grow from the very moment your first breath is taken.Do not seek to be a copy, fan the flames within yourself and follow the path they lead.

-love, nadinenai

Who I am.

I'm Nadine 20 years old and I just woke up at 12 pm . (lazy eh?)  Im a passionate writer and an idealist.I have set views on life that I never or very very rarely give up on.

Life is amazing, and full of little wonders.If you were to ask me whether a human is naturally good or bad, I'd answer with good.

I believe that, there's a wide spectrum of things that can get the best of you, but the only way of that happening is by letting it. By really believing that there is no possible way you could be strong enough to adapt to the situation while staying true to yourself and keeping youself happy.

Quick rules I live by:

☆Never persist on bad influences whether they are external or internal.☆

☆Never insist on someone else to change what you want to change.☆

☆Never resist the urge to follow your dreams and never surpress them.☆

☆Only exist in the pure ideal of your own
soul.☆

So as you can tell, I jumped on the spiritual train quite soon.

As I grew up I soon realized that I don't need a religion to simply be kind or share happiness.

However,I found buddhism to be the right thing for me.I got introduced to it by my stepdad.

He taught me to meditate and be at ease with myself.Which lead to me being in total control of my negative emotions.Buddhism, to me, always was the only religion that merely preached about being a good human being and being healthy;physically as well as mentally.

Buddhism created the foundation of who I am today & inspired me to go further.

Which brought me to Spirituality

For many years I experienced weird events that made me question after life, ghosts & auras.

And throughout these years, a friendship that I believe was meant to be, got stronger and stronger.

Up to this very moment, we still call each other to share our thoughts, which are mostly exactly the same,but it still always amazes me how similar 3 different people can think and develop in totally different lives.

Together we dug into different spiritual topics (like LOA f.e), we analyzed peoples behaviours, we shared concerns and most importantly our consciousness grew.

One aspect of spiritual growth is that you start seeing things in almost a third person perspective, even though you are the one involved in, lets say a discussion, you don't  immediatly react to a statement; but instead you stay objective, see it on a whole and think about it and reply calmly.

Now that doesn't always work of course, but it happens more often than not, and that to me is a huge accomplishment.

 Let's continue to the more "normal" things

Other than writing, I love nature and hiking. I love being adventurous but I can't always convince myself to be it. (I need to work on that)

I love being healthy and fit, but I'm lazy at the minute and prefer reading and philosophizing all day.

I turn the lightswitch in the bathroom off before I unlock the door and it scares me every time.

That is also a consequence of my passion for horror movies.-Im guilty.-

I love the asian cuisine.I love eating out of bowls (i hate eating off plates).

I'm the kind of person you wanna slap because her jokes are so bad and childish. And in regards to zodiac signs, I'm a typical not so typical cancer.

But if you wanna send me sweets, candles or anything antique and pretty I'm up for it! jk. not rly jk. ^_~

Emotionally.. I'd say I'm less emotional than the typical cancer.I do get upset quite easily when something means a lot to me, but other than that I am "enter reggae music here" eassaaayy.

 On a serious note

I started this blog because Ive always been passionate about helping others and sharing insights.

This blog means a lot to me and I appreciate every view, every follow or comment.

I want to build up a place where people can just share thoughts and insights.Also, if ever someone wanted help with a problem he/she is struggeling with, I'd be there and I would take it 100% seriously.

So if anything else pops into my mind, I'll add it. Until then much love <3

xoxo